Hey friendzzz…. Actually buhat dino se site pe aa raha hu….koi story le ke nahi bas chota sa experience le ke….I hope aapke acha lage… Mai pehle hi bata du ke yeh koi story nahi hai…bas ek question hai jo shayad har kisi ke dil mai hai ke ye ” pyar , love , ishq aur mohabbat ye sab kya hota hai….wo jo hum filmo mai dekhte hai ya kuch aur….. I dont know yeh question mere dil mai kyu aaya, lekin main aap ko my personal experience plus my very close observation k basis pe answer karuga… 1st My Experience from other people: Aaj kal k log pyar ka meaning 10% bhi understand nahi karte mostly movies jis type ka pyar dekhati hai like sub kuch perfect wala, real life waisi nahi. But people have common misconceptions about love, sub se bari galaat fehmi;
“PYAR PEHLI NAZAR MAI HOTA HAI”, dusri galaat fehmi “PYAR MAI DONO LOG CHAHE KUCH BHI HO JAYE AIK DUSRAY K SIWA KUCH NAHI DEKHTE”, Third galaat fehmi, “PYAR MAIN EXPECT KARNA NATURAL HAI”, issi type ki kafi misconceptions hain, i’ll explain why i call them mis-conceptions. Pehli baat ka jawab: Pyar agar pehli nazar ki base pe ho, toh waja hoti hai larki ya larkay ki personality, am i right? What about nature? aap ne suna toh hoga na k, Muhabaat ki buniyaad hai TRUST, so pehli nazar main toh kiya friendz aap jab tak pyar mai mushkil halaat ka samna na kar lo, ye andaza laga hi nahi sakte k agla TRUST k qabil hai ya nahi, ya agla aap pe TRUST karta hai ya nahi. So falling in love at first sight aaj kal k fast aur materialistic daur main bohat immature sound karta hai, pehli nazar main insan sirf kisi ki shakal, personality, uss ki gari, dress wagera se he impress hota hai. Woh cheeze pyar ho he nahi sakti. Because love does not happen like a FIRE WORK… Dusri baat ka jawab: As i said some people believe k pyar main aik dusray k siwa kuch aur priority pe nahi hota, ya nahi hona chaheye… well ye galaat thinking hai, pyar main beshak aap k liye aap ka sathi bohat special hai, magar keeping balance in all basic relations, like ur mom, dad, and ur partner is very important. Lekin aaj kal k trend ke mutabik girls try to pull a man totally towards them, and make him neglect his mom and dad,
( not all girls)aur kuch cases main even boys push girls so much that they neglect their parents. Aysa galaat hai, love give u wisdom and strength to keep balance in all relations and tackle the difference of opinion on either sides. Muhabaat aap ko dusray relations se dur nahi karti balkay aap k ander itna pyar bhar deti hai, k u start loving everything more. Zindagi se pyar ho jata hai aap ko, aur sab se zyada muhabaat aap ko aap k Khuda k aur kareeb kar deti hai. When u are in true love, trust me u feel like GOD is blessing u with every breath u take. Third Baat ka Jawab: Muhabaat ka matlab hota hai, apni zaat ki nafi… mera matlab losing self respect bilkul nahi hai. Magar aik hota hai na her cheeze main aap apni zaat ko priority detay ho, jaysay kiya khana hai, kiya pehnana hai, lekin real pyar main aksar khud ki khushi se ziada dusray ki khusi ka khayal rakhna parta hai. Aur iss baat ka start hota hai jab aap expect karna chor detay ho, which is very very very hard to do. Like aap k partner ne call nahi kiya, message ka reply nahi kiya, mil nahi saka, log inn batao pe janwaro ki tarah larte hai, shak kartay hai, even jasoosiyaan bhi karte hai some cases mai.Lekin true love mai zaat ki nafi ehsaas hoti hai k, aap iss baat ki parwa nahi karte k agla aap k siwa kisi aur se baat karta hai, ya uss ne call nahi kia etc etc, cause apnay pyar pe bharosa hona chahiye, agar aap kisi ki khushi k liye apni khushi ki qurbani do, toh khuda kabhi waste nahi jane deta, magar hmara problem ye hai k pyar ko pyar tab maante hai jab woh samne nazar aa raha ho, jab ke real love lafzo tak ka muhtaaj nahi hota. I know bohat se logo ko meri batain kitabi etc etc lagain ge, lekin mera experience kehta hai k inhi kitabi batoon ne, mujhay pyar karna seekhaya, aur issi pyar ki bases pe kisi ki zindagi badal de….. sooooo friendzzz koi baat galat likhi ho to iss na- chiz ko maaf kar dena….good bye